Radical Inclusion: A Parent’s Perspective on Embracing Individuals with Intellectual Disabilities

As a parent of a child with intellectual disabilities, I have come to understand the true meaning of inclusion. Inclusion is not just a buzzword or a policy—it is a fundamental right that ensures individuals with intellectual disabilities have access to the same opportunities, relationships, and experiences as everyone else. Radical inclusion, however, goes beyond the basics. It means fostering a world where individuals with intellectual disabilities are not just present but truly valued, respected, understood, and embraced in all aspects of life.

My husband & I learned about my son’s disability in utero. My first worry while holding my tiny baby was, “How will we get through middle school?” These worries about how society would perceive and accept him became a reality when neighborhood “friends” didn’t show up for his birthday party & family members diminished my struggle as I would share the complex experiences in our home.

I quickly realized that true inclusion does not happen automatically; it must be intentionally cultivated, which is why advocating for inclusion is so important to me. Inclusion means ensuring that individuals with intellectual disabilities are in classrooms, workplaces, and community spaces where they can learn, contribute, and build relationships. However, radical inclusion means reshaping these environments so that they actively celebrate differences and recognize the strengths that come with intellectual disabilities.

In our education system, inclusion is often seen as placing individuals with intellectual disabilities in mainstream classrooms. While this is an important step, it is not enough. Radical inclusion requires adapting teaching methods, encouraging peer friendships, and fostering a culture where individuals with intellectual disabilities are considered equal learners. This means not only physical inclusion but also social and academic inclusion, where their unique abilities are honored.

Similarly, in the workforce, inclusion for individuals with intellectual disabilities should go beyond token representation. Many businesses today are beginning to see the value of hiring individuals with intellectual disabilities, but radical inclusion means offering meaningful roles that match their skills and aspirations. It means providing mentorship, fostering an inclusive culture, and ensuring that individuals with intellectual disabilities have the tools and support they need to thrive professionally.

Community inclusion is another critical aspect. Many parents of children with intellectual disabilities, including myself, have experienced the heartbreak of exclusion from community events, extracurricular activities, and even simple gatherings. True inclusion ensures that individuals with intellectual disabilities are invited, welcomed, and accommodated in all spaces. Radical inclusion, however, takes it a step further by creating environments where their participation is not just accepted but encouraged and celebrated.

One of the most significant barriers to inclusion is society’s perception of intellectual disabilities. Too often, individuals with intellectual disabilities are defined by their challenges rather than their strengths. Inclusion requires shifting the narrative to highlight their talents, contributions, and potential. As a parent, I advocate for radical inclusion by educating others, challenging stereotypes, and pushing for systemic changes that make inclusion a reality at every level. 

Inclusion is not just the responsibility of parents or caregivers—it is a societal commitment. Schools, employers, policymakers, and community members all play a role in fostering an inclusive world for individuals with intellectual disabilities. Radical inclusion demands that we go beyond surface-level efforts and embed inclusive practices into our daily lives. This means actively listening to individuals with intellectual disabilities, valuing their perspectives, and ensuring they have leadership roles in shaping policies that impact them.

As a parent, I dream of a world where inclusion is no longer a fight but a given. Where individuals with intellectual disabilities are not merely included but embraced, respected, and valued. Radical inclusion is about breaking down barriers, dismantling ableist mindsets, and creating spaces where all individuals, regardless of their abilities, can thrive. It starts with each of us making the conscious choice to advocate, educate, and practice true inclusion in every aspect of life.

Inclusion is not an act of kindness—it is a fundamental right. For individuals with intellectual disabilities, radical inclusion is the key to unlocking a world where they are seen, heard, and celebrated for who they truly are.