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The Strength in Asking for Help: A Mother’s Journey

When I first held my newborn son in my arms, I never imagined the challenging yet beautiful journey that lay ahead. As a mother raising a child with a disability, I’ve learned that feeling overwhelmed isn’t just common—it’s almost inevitable. The daily juggling act of responsibilities, caregiving, and planning for our family’s future can feel like carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders.

I remember those early days, thinking I had to do it all myself. The idea of asking for help felt like admitting defeat. Sound familiar? If you’re nodding along, know that you’re not alone.

Why We Struggle to Ask for Help

It’s funny how we moms often believe we need to be superheroes. Society tells us we should “do it all,” and somewhere along the way, we internalize that message. Add in past experiences or self-imposed pressure, and suddenly, asking for help feels like showing weakness.

I used to worry constantly about imposing on others. What if my friends got tired of hearing about our challenges? What if family members resented being asked to babysit? These fears kept me isolated for far too long.

The Turning Point

It took a near-burnout experience for me to realize a crucial truth: asking for help isn’t just okay—it’s essential. Not only for our own well-being but for our children’s too. When I finally reached out, I found not judgment, but compassion. Not burden, but willing hearts ready to support us.

How to Ask for Help (Without the Guilt)

1. Shift Your Mindset: Remember, seeking help isn’t failing—it’s being smart and strong. You’re not burdening others; you’re giving them an opportunity to make a difference.

2. Be Specific: Instead of a vague “I need help,” try “Could you watch Tommy for two hours on Thursday so I can attend his therapy session?” It’s easier for people to say yes when they know exactly what you need.

3. Choose Your Support System Wisely: Lean on those who truly get your situation. My sister became my go-to person because she understood our unique challenges without judgment.

4. Accept Offered Help: When my neighbor volunteered to mow our lawn, my first instinct was to decline. Learning to say “yes” to these offers was a game-changer.

5. Think Partnership, Not Charity: Relationships are two-way streets. By allowing others to support you, you’re strengthening bonds that may one day allow you to return the favor.

You Deserve Support

Being a mom is tough. Being a mom to a child with unique needs can sometimes feel impossible. But here’s what I’ve learned: asking for help isn’t weakness—it’s one of the bravest things you can do. It’s a step towards better mental health, reduced stress, and ultimately, being the best parent you can be.

Remember, you’re not just a caregiver—you’re a person with needs, dreams, and limits. It’s okay to acknowledge those limits and reach out for support.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed and unsure where to turn, know that there are resources available. Organizations like CaringTide specialize in supporting families like ours. They understand our unique challenges and can offer tailored help when you need it most.

Take it from someone who’s been there—reaching out for help can be the first step towards a more balanced, joyful life for both you and your child. You’ve got this, mama. And when you don’t feel like you do, that’s okay too. We’re all in this together.

Photo by Liana Mikah on Unsplash

Pete Rakozy
Author: Pete Rakozy

Pete is a father of three and husband to the most wonderful wife ever. Pete works as the behind the scenes guy at CaringTide making sure broken things get fixed, and that the CaringTide message continues to spread.

Pete is a father of three and husband to the most wonderful wife ever. Pete works as the behind the scenes guy at CaringTide making sure broken things get fixed, and that the CaringTide message continues to spread.

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